Thank you god for the wonderful people you have brought to my life.

When I was a little kid, about 5-6 years old, I was in Germany. I would look at the german girls and think they are so beautiful. I used to think, I should marry a white girl . But then one day I overheard my mum talking with someone and saying Indian girls are much more beautiful than others. I thought ‘no way’. But it had to be true. I mean what elders say is always correct J So I changed my mind to marry a white girl.

I remember, I was around 6 or 7 and we were in Ludhiana. We were in India for didi and my examinations. Me, mama and didi were on Rickshaw and we saw a marriage palace. Didi started teasing me and said, that’s where we will marry you. Then mummy teased, no he will marry a foreigner. I shouted, no!! I’ll marry an Indian. Indian girls are more beautiful. Mummy and Didi were surprised and started teasing me and asking me how I got that into my head.

Lets jump to 1996-97. These were the golden days of my life. I was in Grade 7 and just got crazy about cricket. India had just won the Titan Cup against all hopes. And I had made four of my best friends in schools (two of who still happen to my best friends today). I had just made the switch from backyard cricket to Park cricket and was a big hit. Everyday, I would go to the park at around 4-4:30pm with my friends, and play till 7 pm. And it was time for ‘Bewitched’ on TV, one of my favorites. I used to love Samantha, and thought she was so so beautiful. I used to look at her and wonder why mummy called Indians more beautiful. I dreamt of having a wife who looked like Samantha. I loved her nose, her smile and especially her chin.

Let’s jump to 2005. First year after college and my first year in Job too. It’s November-December and I don’t have much work. So I do a lot of Orkutting. One of my cricket friends from Delhi School, makes a community. He’s a fast bowler, so guess which ground he chooses to make a community on? Perth ofcourse! I’m the third member, and go into the community to see what my good friend has posted. I see a girl there, requesting to join the community because she’s also a member of the WACA in real life. Now I think wow! A girl who likes cricket so much that she’s a member of a cricket ground. This is interesting…..and I proceed to have a look at her profile.

What I see in her profile further amuses me. Mary C, from Bunbury who loves cricket. She also happens to love India. Is a big SRK fan and loves to wear saris. Also happens to be a photographer. I’m amazed to read all this and wonder what is it that she likes so much in India. Well anyways, I gotta leave her a scrap and I do. Her profile pic is nothing amazing. Just a picture of her taking her own pic in the mirror. Half of her face is hidden by the camera. What strikes me though is the Sari she is wearing and the color of her eyes – light. The photograph is black and white, so I assume she has blue eyes.

Me and Mary become friends. We have a lot of interests in common, and talk to each other mostly on email. Its November end and I’m now in Delhi at my dear friend Himanshu’s house. I tell Himanshu of all my new friends and tell her about Mary too. I show him Mary’s profile and even he is surprised to know all of Mary’s interests. He jokes ‘So Harry’s going to marry Mary’. Ha ha….I laugh and say No Way…that’s totally impossible, out of this world! She’s Aussie, my parent will never allow me. But at the back of my mind I think, why isn’t it possible…

I come back to my work in Pune. I took lovely pics of my cousin’s toddler ‘Ajaypal’ so put one of his cutest pics on my orkut profile. Meanwhile I notice that Mary has changed her profile pic too. And the new profile pic is so so amazing. She’s wearing a Black Sari again, but has a big Smile on her face. Her eyes are big and she has dark curly hair (again a black and white pic). Instantaneously, I’m in love with her picture. I start teasing her by leaving her scraps. Also my work load decreases dramatically and I end up chatting with her at work daily for 3-4 hours. I absolutely love chatting with her.

And then everyone knows what happens. Mary and I have been together for over two years now. We still haven’t met, but our relationship has remained strong.

Today I want to thank god for everything that he has given me. He first gave me wonderful parents. Parent who knew their job. Who were strict when they needed to be strict and calm and supportive on the whole. Then the best elder sister. A sister who scolded me when it was time to scold me (sometimes even when it wasn’t ), and hugged me when I needed one. A sister who I was so mean to and shouted at, at times, and yet she loves me even more. My family who basically loves, trusts and supports me all the time.

Then the wonderful friends he gave me. My best friend Sandy who knows what’s going on in my mind without even talking to me. Then Lucky, who would do anything to make my day special. Mahima, who would scold me until I took the right step. Amita who would hug me and look up to me like an elder brother. And Himanshu, my younger brother.

If that wasn’t enough, god did something amazing. He looked into one of my dream and gave it to me. I was 11-12 and the dream was something like this.

A Girl, with beautiful green-blue eyes,

A cute little nose and a wonderful smile!

She’s gotta have Samantha’s chin,

And cute little Tabatha’s infectious grin.

 

But the outer appearance don’t matter

It’s the heart that’s gotta be better.

Oh God, give me a sensible wife

A pure person who always thinks right

 

A girl who would care for the small and the poor,

Who would give them her food, she’s mine for sure.

A girl who loves to hug and smile

And someone who would love me all the while

 

The most loving person in whole wide world,

Who makes me warm, when its so darn cold.

I am a guy who loves being loved,

So give me some to who I am beloved.

 

A Girl, with beautiful green-blue eyes,

A cute little nose and a wonderful smile!

A Girl with heart made of Gold

A fairy Princess, lo and behold!

I asked god to give me a wife who would love me more than anything in the world. What the girl looked like, I never asked god for. But I would day dream about how she would look and hope that she actually is like that.

Thank you god, for the wonderful person you have given me in Mary. She truly is the exact Fairy Princess I was looking for. You give me what I asked for, a sensible, loving, caring girl who loves me more than anything else. But you also made sure you gave me what I didn’t ask for, and dreamt for..

Thank you so much. I wonder a lot of times why I get to be so lucky!!

God I request you 1 last thing. Please ensure that Mary and I live happily ever after. Just like one of the many fairy stories I used to listen to as a kid. Only the writer for this story is you – God himself….

Hi everyone! Boy have I taken some time to update this blog or what? It’s been around 2 years since I last wrote on this blog. Our poor blog has been ignored for over an year now. The only few updates coming have been coming from Mary’s end.

So here are a few randome much needed updates from my end.

After Chennai (some 1.5 years back), i got shifted to Chandigarh. Same company, different project but same amount of hardwork. Since then, I’ve come a long way and am currently sitting in USA, where I’ve come from Netherlands for a week. Now based in Netherlands, I became first a Software engineer from Design Engineer, then Web designer, then module lead, then application expert, then official trainer and now on the verge of being a Program Analyst.

Where my proffesional life’s been a roller coaster, my (our) love life has been a steady mountain climb. And judging by the climb so far, I dont think the mountain even has a top. Mary and I have gone from strength to strengh. We came so close to meeting, but couldnt. We’ve been further apart physically, yet so much more closer. Our love for each other has been growing steadily, and no day has come where we havent loved each other more. As Mary says, it’s like falling in love every single day of our lives.

I dont know what makes us so strong. We havent met each other even once, yet we are totally crazy about each other. Probably its the fact we understand each other so well….. And that we care for each other a lot……Or that we have loads of common interests and thinking….. And definitly because Mary is the most beautiful person on this planet and I the luckiest to have her as mine.

So that was about me. Mary too has had great success. Her swimming keeps getting better and she’s broken records and won races which surprised her too. She’s become a celibrity of sorts. Believe me. Just type in ‘Mary C’ in google and see the number of results you get. It’s all records for her.

Studies have been going great too. She’s just been awarded amongst the top 1% students (a feat achieved by just 200 people in the last 17 years) of her college and will be personally congratulated by the University Vice Chancellor in April this year. Her name will also be etched on the University walls forever. Didnt i tell you all, She is the Best of the Best . I’m so so proud of you dear.

So thats been us for the last 1.5 years. Hopefully, I can be more regular in updating this wonderful lovely blog that my dear Mary started.

love

Harman

One year ago I started this blog!  Back then Harman & I thought we were going to meet sometime in 2006!  :)  but that didn’t happen. I guess the good thing about not meeting in 2006, is that now we know each other so much more.

Not being able to see each other (until we both had webcams) and not being able to touch each other, has at least for me, made Harman become the person, with the exception of my two sisters, who I feel closest too.  We discuss things that most boyfriend/girlfriend pairs wouldn’t discuss until they had been dating for ages.     I think this is a positive thing. I think lots of bf/gfs don’t know about the critical opinions of each other on a range of issues.. they are too busy hugging and staring into each other’s eyes!   We discuss lots of crazy, stupid stuff too – and it’s heaps of fun! You know what I love about my friendship with Harman? it is that we can talk on any subject for hours, and it never gets boring!  From carrots to chickens (chooks ! ), cricket to weather (our fav. subject) lol

Anyway, enough of this – I was posting about some GOOD NEWS! :!!!!  

Around this time next month (if everything goes to plan, which it never does) we might be meeting!!!!!!!

As far as I know, Harman’s visa papers have been approved and we will be in Europe at the same time as each other, which is very freaky considering this:

This time last month I wasn’t even going to Europe.

This time two months ago Harman wasn’t going to Europe.

We had several times worked out that we would completely miss each other in Europe.

Despite all this, we may just meet!  

   :)  :)  :)     :)

 I will keep you updated if things change..

Until then, pray we get too meet soooon 

Mary

Our much ignored blog has been languishing away here for almost 3 months with no updates!  But considering we’ve both been so busy that we often don’t even get time to email each other frequently, it’s no surprise this blog hasn’t seen an update in a long time.

I do keep ‘checking’ on this blog, I log in, mean to write something, think about how much I haven’t written here, then log out without updating!

Anyway, this update has to do with travelling – I am going to Hong Kong, Rome, Lucca, Assisi, Pisa, Florence, and Paris for a whole month this June, while Harman is being transferred to Amsterdam at around the time I will be in Paris.. this is where the ‘fun’ starts.

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Hi. Mary and me have decided to watch so many movies together. so i thought, why not keep track of all the movies (so that we dont miss out on the fun of watching any movie??). So here i go. i’ll jot down a few movies i would love to watch with my dearest Mary, and also a few which i know Mary would love to watch with me:

1) Forrest Gump
..The world will never be the same once you’ve seen it through the eyes of Forrest Gump.

2) Dilwale Dulhaniya Lejayenge
…Come and fall in LOVE

3) Lagaan
…Once upon a time in India

4) KKHH
…You know you’re in LOVE when…Kuch Kuch Hota Hai

5) Munna Bhai MBBS
…His prescription is …love

6) Dil chahta Hai
…Welcome to a summer of their lives you will never forget.

7) Rang de basanti
…A Generation Awakens

Matrix Trilogy
…Be Afraid Of The Future

9) i cant forget ‘Back to the future’ Trilogy
…He’s the only kid ever to get into trouble before he was born.

10) Kal Ho Naa Ho
…A Story Of A Lifetime…….In A Heartbeat

11) Galipoli
…From a place you’ve never heard of, comes a story you’ll never forget .

12) Mohabbatein
…Some love stories live forever

13) Veer-Zaara
…A Love Legend

14) 50 First dates

My daily schedule!  Now to me this seems very boring, but Harman really wanted me to write this post

This is typical for a Monday, and if I haven’t gone swimming training my wake-up time is more like 8am!
I have to be immersed in water before I am in a good enough mood to talk to anyone in the mornings! hehe..  so having a shower or going swimming is something I do within 20 mins of waking up.

• 5.15am -  Wake up for swimming training, change into my bathers, wonder why I’m awake.
• 5.40am – Mum takes me to the swimming pool.
• 6.00am – Splash!  I hit the water, 4.5-5km of swimming is ahead of me.
• 7.30am – Training is over, time for a shower.
• 7.45am – Mum picks me up from swimming.
• 8.00am – I get home, unpack my swimming bag and turn on my laptop!  Check emails, orkut & cricinfo.
• 8.10am – Time for breakfast. Every single morning I eat muesli with chopped apple pieces in it.
• 8.30am – I make a coffee.. this helps me keep awake.  I used to drink tea but now it hurts my mouth too much
• 9.00am – Finished my coffee (yes I take 30mins to drink 1 cup!)
• 9.00am – Start studying for the day.
• 12.00pm – Finish studying.  Sometimes I am 10-15mins either way, depending on how much I have to do.
• 12.30pm – Lunch time! Usually I eat salad sandwiches (salad being tomatoes, lettuce, carrot, cheese) oh! and not to forget I always have it with sweet chilli sauce!
• 1pm- 3pm  – I do various things, whether it is shopping (rarely), reading, studying some more, cleaning, sewing, anything really.
• 3pm – 5pm – hmmm what exactly I do then I don’t really know
• 5pm – Get ready for work, put on some makeup ( a little bit if I am bothered, some days I just don’t care) Do my hair prettily, get my salwaar kameez, bangles, & bindi on.
• 5.15pm – Leave for work
• 5.30pm – ~10pm – I’m working.
• 10.15pm – Dinner time!  This usually means either dal or pasta. I also drink about 2-3 liters of water to replace all the fluids lost from not drinking much at work!
• 10.45pm – I go to bed. 
• 10.45pm onwards – Sleeping happily

Well I'm feeling a little guilty here, cause Harman is busier than I am at the moment (I had practially nothing to do except work at nights after I finished my exams last week) and he has still found time to write 2 sensational long and thoughtful posts!   well done!   

I have 2 'reply' posts to write in the coming days/or week one about 'dear ones' and the other 'cricketing moments' BUT.. lol.. I want to write about something that I still cannot stop thinking about (any guesses yet as to what??)

Yesterday Harman & I spoke/chatted on yahoo for the first time ever! and it was for a whole 3 (yes, you read right) THREE hours!   it was kinda scary that neither of us realized how the time had gone so quickly though!  

At first I was terribly shy, when he suggested we should try speaking I actually started shaking…. It wasn't that I was scared of Harman, or even of what he would think of me, it was just I was very very shy.  Then when I called him the first time he said 'hello'  I think I said 'hello' (can't really remember) and then I couldn't say anything – and I felt so bad because he was trying to make a nice conversation and I was not saying a thing! but I really adored just listening to his voice   I always have a 'good feeling' or 'bad feeling' when I hear people's voices over the phone.. and his voice gave me a really, really, really, really, really good feeling   so I was very pleased with that! (you passed that test Harman! hehe) His voice (to me) sounded like a mixture of my Sri-Lankan friend and Shahrukh Khan hehe!

So anyway, after trying with 2-4 minute calls on yahoo a few times, we both had enough courage to try and overcome shyness and just start talking, and I felt myself quickly relax – especially once we started talking non-stop about cricket! it was really great to talk about cricket to someone who loves & understands the game    I loved it whenever Harman started joking too.. I love people who aren't too serious!

Eventually we finished the call at around 4.10pm (I think) and I had to get ready for work which was in 1 hours time – and the whole night at work all I could hear in my head was our conversations, replaying & replaying in my head, it was one of the nicest feelings to have and just the thought of his voice made me smile at anything & everything that was happening around me!  

Quite ofen I get asked a question which I find a little strange.. Indian friends ask me, non-Indian friends ask me, complete strangers ask me

  “Why do you love India & Indians so much?”

 When I hear this question, every time my mind goes completely blank, then immediately I get quite annoyed (why should they care who I like!!) (in my mind only) my facial expression doesn’t change I slowly calm myself down and say

 ”I always have liked Indians (so true) I find they have such similar interests as me, and they share my love of cricket.”

and you can add (what I’m thinking to myself in my head) also I think they key thing here is RESPECT . now I know I can’t put every Indian into the same catergory (just as no-one can put every Australian into the one catergory) BUT the majority of Indians that I have met (either in real life or online) I love it how they respect their culture, their parents, their brothers & sisters, their country, their faith.. and I find this inherent “sweetness” in every nice Indian guy I have met (and fyi, one of the worst guys I have ever met was also Indian , so I’m not just blinded by good experiences here!) I can’t say what it is.. but Indian guys will talk about their Mums to me, they’ll tell me they love children, they agree with the values I hold dear to me (marriage, family etc) where as I just rarely see this ever happen in an Australian guy. … why?

What do you think?

Hey I know there are a lot of things Harman & I dream of doing together - I thought why not start a list to think of everything we have to look forward to

What Mary wants to do with Harman

• Watch a cricket match at the WACA ground
• Listen to him talk for as long as he wants, face-to-face.
• Watch the movie Mohabbatein
• Have dinner with Harman & my family
• Surprise him one day!
• Practice something so I can beat Harman at some type of sport! (not swimming)

What Harman wants to do with Mary

• Listen to Mary talk and talk and talk….
• Casually walk besides the beach, enjoying the waves and listening to what she has to say.
• Play Cricket with her.
• Show her Punjab.
• Sing a song for her for two reasons- a) she loves hindi songs b) I am really bad at singing, so it would take my best to sing her one.(Something special for someone special)
• Sketch her